Expert: Oscar G. - 8/21/2010

Question
In this world of online gratification or lonely hearts searching...I find that I have become one of "those people" I have found that the true person I am is longing to be a slave, I have found someone who is wonderful and that would like to be Master. My question is, we are both married, do you think it is possible to have a strictly online Master/Slave relationship? Have you heard of it before. I should add both married cannot be together physically, but can via IM and cam.  My partner knows and does not mind, however Masters would not understand. I believe that it can be done but would still like to see if others are in same situation and if anyone has valuable input on how they have made it work.

Answer
Hello:

Your situation is not unique and there are many more complicated situations in the world. Yours happens to be, well, YOURS and then important. If en your end your husband does not mind, you are a step ahead as long as you only wish to keep it online. The problem would come if you grow those desires into something bigger and eventually want to act upon then outside your marriage. That will be up to you ethics and morals. If on the other side your master cannot do it as openly as you, then perhaps you need to find someone else more compatible and open to play online only.
The complication for him, would eventually catch up to him , limits the time and place to do  anything and the elements or guilt, grief, or plain honor and ethic would come into conflict.

I know passion, satisfaction and enjoyment could override some of those things, but peace of mind is invaluable and lack of conflict underrated. Could be a worse situation, and many do have those, it is all a question of how do you decide to handle it. Not two situations are alike. I hope you have a bit of an insight in the proper light.
Be well, be safe and take care.
Oscar G.