Expert: Oscar G. - 8/18/2010

Question
Im rather new to the whole Femdom scene, and Ive got a new parter who is completely sub. He loves being called names that degrade him, hurt him and disgust him. I am rather creative myself, but this one stumps me. I want to really mistreat him verbally in general (which he has specifically asked me to do) and the words just arent flowing. Do you know of any websites that offer ideas with names and situations? Or do you have any name calling experience?

Thank you!

Answer
Hi Shelby:

I am not the type of Dom that likes humiliation, so my advice will come from imagination or suggestions from other people that I have heard before. Usually the name calling goes to subjugation and lowering of esteem. In name calling at times, is questioning his manhood, his efforts, his physique, looks, personal size. And also perhaps comparing him unfavorably to other people or objects or even animals. The use of expletives and waste products is not my cut of tea at all. Yet other people use it to that effect as well.
You have to be aware of the limits he has so perhaps you do not end up hitting too close to home (for real) or perhaps he  needs that for sake of catharsis or unbottling of feelings.
Yet dig in a bit on his psyche and you will find what area he wants to be 'hit'. Other than that, ask my neighboring Fem Domme next door. I bet she would know more on that topic.
Best wishes.
Oscar G.