Expert: Oscar G. - 8/9/2010

Question
Hello!

I've been in a relationship with a girl who enjoys "Pain Play". I've never been much into this (I've always tried some Humiliation/Control, as a Dom), but I'm starting to learn and quite liking it.


I want to use all the pain play I've been planning, and that I know she likes. I've been practicing, thinking and re-thinking.

But, I don't want to simply put her there and 'cause pain to her. That could be nice, and arousing for us both, but since I haven't done it yet, and I don't know if she'll like it all, I was thinking about some variety. And giving her the chance to do something and be rewarded.

She told me she likes to be given Tasks she must do, or endure to. I'm not thinking about "Cleaning the floor with a toothbrush", here, but more a "Stand on the tips of her toes, holding a little ball against the wall with her nose", or "Hold something with her mouth while tease/spanked, not being permited to drop it".

I really don't have any other ideas than this ones I gave. Maybe not, but I think they are silly, although I might try the "tip of the toes" thing.

I was thinking about some different position she could stay for some minutes. Or holding something, like these examples.

Would you, please, give me some help about this??

Or, maybe, just point me to some ideas/resources I could research...

Thanks a lot!

Sincerely

Answer
Hi Phill:
I believe that perhaps the ideal play for what you seek would predicament bondage http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Predicament_bondage
The situation would be mild and innocent to start, but with time could become harder and/or painful, but not all at once. The link provided will give you more on the topic and probably some ideas if you follow the links further.
I hope that gets the ball rolling and you 2 have fun, yet safely.
Be well and take care.
Oscar G