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I am not even sure of the subject matter here.  I have been in a relationship, new to bdsm, for a few months with an experienced Dom.  He lives far from me so we see each other when we can.  There is no formal commitment at this point so my "status" is single...but I have to figure out a way to let others know I am not seeking play-partners or relationships...and I am starting to get more attention as I get out more.  I am a friendly person but this may be interpreted as flirting as my "taken" status is not public.  How can I still be friendly and meet people without appearing "available"?  I am not able to post a "taken" status at this point due to other reasons that are His and I respect.  Maybe a "private property" t-shirt? :P

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you can join collarme.com or fetlife.com or maybe both.  You can find people in your area as well munch groups that might be happen...you may also see events that might be happening near you.

I do not know how else you may get the word out there I hope that this helps you find others in your area.

Good luck

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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