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I am a married wife to my Dom/Hubby/Top/Protector..Etc. We have been together for 10 years but only been active in BDSM for a little over a year. Aftercare, as we know, is a must. Mine consist of a bath, lights off candles on (lights make my sub-space-then back to reality very harsh)blues music, ice water,fruit (all in the tub) Dom bathing me, drying me off, gentle voice, a gentle talk about the session....But I am wondering what others do in aftercare. I am looking to add something new to my aftercare..Any suggestions?
~Thanks so much for taking the time to answer this..'Beth'

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Okay it is all different for each person.  some just like to be warped in a blanket and help, other sit and tell jokes back and forth. It is about what works for you and for each sub in the end.  I have hard of some even having problem running into the next day afterwords.  Where they need to be looked after some so that they stay safe.


I love your aftercare, wish that worked in my world? I might have to bring it up more and see about a change. :-)  Man if more nights or days had that in it life would be a grand place.

Thanks for passing on what works for you, and I am sorry I do not have more ideas to pass back to you. It is a personal thing and sometimes not talked about as much as maybe it should be.

Be well and safe,

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

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I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

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Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

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D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

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I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

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I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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