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Expert: - 9/25/2010


Question
sir i stay in india and im most likely to have an arrange
marriage my que is if i get married 2 a vanilla girl can she
be my mistress if i make her understand what bdsm is? n have
a regular sub dom relationship...and how likely it is that i
marry someone who is into BDSM,i mean roughly what % of
people are into this??

Answer
BDSM is becoming more of a main stream then it once was. And more people are marring into it I would say about 7 % marries into the lifestyle.

Yes you can try to teach the wife about the lifestyle, and hope that if she does like and enjoy it she can do for you what it is that you wish her to do. But it does not always work out that way sad to say.

You may have to hold some agreement with her that you can have that need meet outside of your marriage, and that does not mean you have to have sex with the Dom or be unfaithful at all.

I hope that it helps you out, thanks for the question.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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