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This all new to me i just meet a Dom and i need to know the proper way to be a sub and her behavior whats expected and proper ways to address your Dom and other Dom/mes
Hi, mel...
You need to start reading books and looking at websites. If you'll write to me at PowerExchangeEditor@yahoo.com I'll send you a "resources" file that will get you started.
It is your Dom's responsibility to train you in the ways he wants you to act around him and around other Doms.
If the two of you are at all considering a Master/slave structure, then I'd suggest that you pick up a copy of my book: "Protocols for the Female slave: Handbook of theory and practice" (Robert Rubel). THAT will give you your complete answer, but for a slave rather than for a submissive: it describes ways to stand, ways to address your Master, and many, many small protocols including setting the table for (and serving) a High Protocol Leatherman's dinner.
Welcome to a new world. It's a subculture and it's going to take you some time to understand it and feel comfortable.
We all started out just where you are.
In Leather,
Bob
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Robert Rubel
Expertise
Master/slave theory and practice, using protocols to make your world special, communication glitches within the M/s framework, serious problem solving in an M/s relationship, fire play.
Experience
Author of:
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice;
Protocol Handbook for the Female slave (The gender-free version is titled:
Protocol Handbook for the Leather slave. They are essentially the same.)
M/s Relations: Communications 401 - the Advanced Course;
M/s Relations: Solutions 402 -- Living in Harmony
There are other books, but only these are relevant to this category.
... and a few others. By the way, my slave is on the far left, and my Owner is in the middle. We've been together over six years, and have lived as a Leather Family since June, 2006.
Organizations
MAsT, NLA-I
Publications
See my website: www.RubelPresents.com and go to the "publications" tab.
Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison.
Have presented over 30 times in 2007 and 2008 at major weekend Leather and BDSM conferences. These are all listed on my website, www.RubelPresents.com along with all my presentation topics.
Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008
Past/Present Clients
I am currently mentoring two people, listed on my FetLife profile of Dr_Bob. I particularly enjoy mentoring FemDommes -- they often listen better. I have successfully transformed a select number of people. It's not a question of what I offer, it's a question of what you bring to the table.
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