Expert: Master Shadow - 1/13/2011

Question
I was introduced to this lifestyle six months ago by a married Dom, whose wife does not know about his secret life.  He has been in bdsm for 15 years, so I am not his first sub.  He is collared me in a simple one or two sentence affair-he isn't high on protocol. We have fallen for each other BIG TIME.  He does not allow me to have any other play partners because he is very jealous.  I find myself becoming jealous of the time he spends with his wife-which he says is not at all fulfilling.  I would love your opinion on this type of relationship within the lifestyle.

Answer
I hate to break this to you, cc, but most of these types of relationships do not work out. Usually it's because the so called "Dom" is not what they appear to be, and many are just looking for a little something on the side.

Has He taken you to any events or play parties, or introduced you to His bdsm friends? Surely He has a few friends in the Lifestyle that can vouch for Him, if asked? References from His former slaves would be nice too. Is there someone who knows Him in the Lifestyle that you may speak with? If the answer to these questions are no, then you might be in for a letdown. My advice, check before falling for anyone, especially a Married Dom who happens to be sneaky enough to hide His proclivities for 15 years.


Best of luck!                                                           Sincerely in Leather,
                                                                       Master Shadow,
                                                                       House of Dragon.