Expert: Robert Rubel - 1/13/2011

Question
Hi,
i have been married for 3 years and would love my wife to take charge @ home, i really feel the need for her to cane me and keep me naked all the time @ home, i want her to make me help with all the housework ect. i want her to cane me for punishment and also sexual gratification i want her to leave welts on me and also have me shaved all the time, have her put me over a chair in the lounge or over the kitchen table and cane me,i also want her to feed me my own cum and masterbate in front of her on command, i have suggested this to her but she dosent seem instrested, i feel like it will enhance our relationship and build a stronger bond between us, if she takes control and canes me for stepping out of line. please advise on any suggestions. thank you

Answer
Well, for starters, it's great that you are so clear about your needs.

I have no doubt at all that if you can get her to go along with you down this path that it will certainly create a much stronger bond than anything you've yet experienced with her.  You might start by buying her the book: "When Someone You Love is Kinky"  Unfortunately, Amazon says that it's not available, but you should be able to find it used -- very popular book.  The next book would be: "Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns."  If you get her that far, contact me again and I'll give you a reading list.

By the way, you're seeking "domestic discipline", should you want to do some research on it.

Hope that you can work this out -- or find a Lady outside your relationship who will treat you this way.  (It's very common over here that if one spouse is vanilla, the other partner has a Dom/Domme or a Master/Mistress.  I hear about it all the time.  I have an Owner who gave me a slave.  The three of us have been together nearly eight years.

Bob