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hi..just asking if you happen to know any good free sites for finding a female sub or slave?  collar me is one, but when you type in the code they want you to type in, it says its the wrong code. this happens over and over again. anyway, do you know any good free sites that actually work and are not a breeding ground for scam artists and players like collar me? thank you!

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Actually, no.  There is no specific site where trained "real life" slaves would hang out.  There is a site like that for gay men, but not for straight women.

You can try alt.com or collarme.com where you're having some trouble, but the people on there are very different from real-life slaves who take this VERY seriously.  To find a good sub or slave, you'll have to be out  there in "real life" at munches and play parties and weekend conferences learning how all this really works.  You'd have to read books about how to behave around one.  If you write to me at powerexchangeeditor@yahoo.com I'll send you a reading list and some links to the conferences.  If you join www.fetlife.com (free) you will also be able to link to the events page to find out when things are going on in your town.  You will also be able to search by city to find other people near you who are like-minded.

Hope this helps,

Bob

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Robert Rubel

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Master/slave theory and practice, using protocols to make your world special, communication glitches within the M/s framework, serious problem solving in an M/s relationship, fire play.

Experience

Author of: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice; Protocol Handbook for the Female slave (The gender-free version is titled: Protocol Handbook for the Leather slave. They are essentially the same.) M/s Relations: Communications 401 - the Advanced Course; M/s Relations: Solutions 402 -- Living in Harmony There are other books, but only these are relevant to this category. ... and a few others. By the way, my slave is on the far left, and my Owner is in the middle. We've been together over six years, and have lived as a Leather Family since June, 2006.

Organizations
MAsT, NLA-I

Publications
See my website: www.RubelPresents.com and go to the "publications" tab.

Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison. Have presented over 30 times in 2007 and 2008 at major weekend Leather and BDSM conferences. These are all listed on my website, www.RubelPresents.com along with all my presentation topics.

Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008

Past/Present Clients
I am currently mentoring two people, listed on my FetLife profile of Dr_Bob. I particularly enjoy mentoring FemDommes -- they often listen better. I have successfully transformed a select number of people. It's not a question of what I offer, it's a question of what you bring to the table.

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