BDSM/Age Gap

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Expert: - 11/2/2011


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Hello, i have found a master that is teaching me slowly about the bdsm world, my mentor had told me i would fall in love with my first dom and he was right. My master is all i think about and i told him that the feelings are there. He told me it is ok to like him but do not fall in love. I have became up set with him so i start pulling my self away. He had ask what is wrong and i have told him how i felt. We do talk every day, some times two. But then he throw me a cerv ball and one day i did not talk to him at all. Just because i was still upset. He had told me, "I shouldn't be telling you this, but i was really worry about you and up set that you had not called."  i just giggled and didn't want to think to much in to it. The age gap is there and in real life, not much of a future is there. But is he just saying that to keep me around or really feeling it?

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I would ask him why it would be okay to like him but not to fall in love or even to be in love with him? I do not understand that at all.

Maybe he is not the right Dom for you? Have you talked with your Mentor about this? Maybe they have some thing else to offer.

If you are on www.fetlife.com message me there and I will try to pass you on to a group that might be able to help you. Or you can join fetlife and I have the same user name there.

Thank you and I am sorry I am not much help.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

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I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

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Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

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I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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