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Hello, my name is Morgan and I recently entered a Master/slave relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together about 4 years. We like doing this (meaning Master/slave) 24/7 but have also learned that to continue to improve ourselves as people and our relationship (as we are long-distance right now) we should be "vanilla" sometimes (neither of us have an objection to this arrangement). At all times he is my Master and he owns me, but our interactions are not always of that nature. However, we are entertaining the thought of a collar, as a physical representation that I am utterly his. As we are both in college, I would like it to be something that is not totally obvious as a collar, yet is not a necklace...something that if people see they won't think its totally normal but not TOO out there. I would prefer it to be something I can take on and off, but also something that if I want it to be on days on end I can. I have looked at sites but wanted some advice on the subject, as well as advice on balancing a vanilla and a Master/slave relationship. Do you have any suggestions?
Thank you,
Morgan

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Sorry for my delay.  i went looking for things before i answered this question.  I found at Macy's and at Kols they have chokers flat with a small chain on the back so you can ad-quest it. Where no one will think anything of it but it is not just a chain like the rest of the world would be wearing.

I hope this would work, and I wish you all the best of luck.  and please keep me posted as to what you think of the idea, or how things are, feel free to come back any time.

Thanks again and sorry for the delay I wanted to go and look before I just cam up with something.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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