Expert: awhitecloud - 12/7/2011

Question
I'm a very sexually energetic person. I want sex all the time. I think about it constantly. And even have vivid enough dreams that I wake up orgasming. I'm one of those people that is willing to try almost anything once and if I like it will continue doing it. My husband is a Dom with a nylon and spanking fetish. I knew this before we were married and once I tried it, fully embraced it. I love being told what to do and how to do it. We're not into the humiliation and degradation, but the domination is a huge plus. When we found out I was pregnant our sex life slowed down massively. And he refuses to spank me more than a tap on the butt every now and then. I want and need sex more now than I have ever. He doesn't want to spank me and that is a huge part of his sexual desire. When I confronted him about us not having sex he said that it's just too boring and that he is mad at himself for having his fetishes because it makes him not want vanilla sex. I don't want vanilla sex. He has expressed a desire to switch but I don't know what to do. I have a very dominant personality and am very sexually aggressive, but for some reason I don't know how to make that show in my relationships. I would like to Dom him and give him what we both need so that there is no risk to the baby but we can still have our BDSM sex life. I guess what my question is how can I make my personality work for us by switching roles with him? And what steps can I take to ensure that he knows when I Dom I am in charge?

Answer
that can be hard work on both sides.  I would tell you to join www.fetlife.com where you can join some groups that have people who can guide you and lead you or even show you how to go about that.  Sometimes that can be the best way to know and ask questions in like minded areas.  I have never been pregnant and been in the lifestyle.  So I am not a good person to ask.  But I would willing you help you find some groups on fetlife that might help you.  so join it if your not already and look me up i have the same user name there, I will do my best to help you get into some groups that can help you better then I can.

Thank you and sorry I am not much help,

awhitecloud