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I Have been married now for 21 years to a man I truly love, we have just gotten into the swingers site, and no one interest me there.  I don't know how to say this but to say it, I am wanting more  so much more.  I have tried to tell my husband what it is I need and he will do it  but it isn't the same. He loves me and I him but when he does do what I need to a degree it is only because I am telling him along the way.  I want to have someone know what it is I need and take care of those needs with out me thinking or having to explain them to him.  I dream all the time and read allot, I have noticed that alot of my books are of d/s and I have sex fantasize about being with a dom and my husband.  I am not into pain but pain with pleasure.  I was hoping that you could tell me the best way to find someone in my area  that I could maybe talk with or go watch or even have a session with in my area of NW Indiana Chesterton.  pease help me Victoria

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Victoria,

I do not know how to get him interested, but it might help to find others in your area and get a group of D/s friends where you can talk and both learn more.   There is a site it is www.fetlife.com you can join for free.  You can find groups as well fellow kinksters and that could allow you both to grow and give him more understanding into the needs that you have.  I hope it helps and if you join look me up I can try to help you with finding groups.  I have the same user name there as here. I hope this will help you, and I so understand the frustration that you have inside of yourself.  

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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