Expert: awhitecloud - 12/15/2011

Question
Hi. Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. However, I want to improve our sex life even more but first let me tell you a little about us. First of all, most people would say that I wear the "pants" in our relationship (I make more money than my husband does, I make all the key decisions, and my husband takes longer to get ready in the washroom than I do). :)

So, my husband's more of the sensitive type and I really like that about him. However, when it comes to sex, I want him to be more aggressive and I don't know exactly how to tell him this. Well actually, I don't want him to just be a little more aggressive (I want him to completely dominate me). My biggest fantasy that I have is that I want my husband to piss on me but I don't know if it'll ever happen. Me and husband don't have arguments a lot but when we do, he always gives in and lets me "win". During one of our arguments, I want him to just call me a bitch and tell me to shut up, grab me by my hair, stick his penis in my mouth, and start throatfucking me. I know that this is really extreme but I can't stop thinking about it. Then, I want him to slap me with his dick a few times and then eventually piss all over me.

I want to tell my husband about this fantasy but I don't know he'll react. And I know that if he agrees to do it, it won't excite me as much as if it "just happened" but it's better than nothing. First of all, I want to know if my fantasy is normal or not. Second of all, do you think I should tell my husband or just keep it to myself forever? By the way, the main part of my fantasy isn't my husband pissing on me (so, I don't think I have a fetish for urine). The main part that turns me on is my husband interrupting me in a rude way by putting his dick in my mouth. For example, when I'm talking about my day and my husband doesn't want to hear about it (I can sense that sometimes) or when I'm lecturing him about something he did wrong, I want him to just shove his penis in my mouth to get me to shut up (and I'd start sucking his penis and we would go on from there). So, do you think I should tell my husband about my fantasy or is it too weird to ever let him know about it? Thanks for helping.

Answer
Julie,

Okay from a sub's standpoint I do not think this is strange at all I find it exciting. That said I think you need to pass this information on to him. If not talking about it then writting it to him. Now if you write it to him you can give him lots of ideas and when the time comes you will never know which one he will pull out, or even add something for himself to, which will make it exciting for you as well.

I would try talking to him first about the option of him being more Dominate when it comes to the bedroom. Then see where he is at. Ask him how he feels about exploring fantisys and even if he would pass on his with you? Men have as many as we do and well it is just not something we talk much about. I see no reason not to explore them as long as it is a safe adventure for both sides.

It might help for you to join www.fetlife.com where you can get into some groups of like minded people to talk with from time to time. It is free to join and well look me up I would be happy to help if I can. I have the same user name there as here. Thank you for the question it was really something nice.

Awhitecloud