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i have no experience in this lifestyle since where i am from the society don't take it lightly about alternative lifestyles. but i am an avid reader and one day i stumbled across romance books that revolves around BDSM and i am hooked. the concept of surrendering my body, mind and soul to a master, obeying his orders. i want to someone to control everything i do. even outside bedroom. i want someone to make decisions for me. but because i have a tendency of running away from reality and have a reputation of making bad choices in my life, i want to know whether i am just a coward to live or i want to live for someone?

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I Do not think you are a coward, but more about finding yourself. Maybe you need to jsut give it a try and see if it is for you or not?

You can join www.fetlife.com and look at the groups and talk with others,  even get to know others in your area, and see if you are being called to be a sub.

Keep reading and learning pay attention to your heart and where it is directing you to go.

Thanks for the queStion, I hope that I helped even a little but, be well and safe.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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