Expert: awhitecloud - 3/3/2011

Question
Hello,
I've been interested in D/z relationships for a while now and the more I look into it the more I realize it's something I really would like to experience.
I have a cat fetish that my boyfriend is aware of, he knows I like to be dressed up as a cat during sex and I have tried to approach the subject of trying out some sort of Master/Pet arrangement with him, but he's entirely serious about not making me do anything I don't want to do.
It's a lovely gesture not forcing me to do anything, but I can't seem to get him to understand that dominating me a little and letting me be his pet, would actually be something I WANT to do.
He said he's not going to dominate me, but he's perfectly willing to spank me in the bedroom.

I think if I was able to slowly, almost unnoticeably slip into being his pet, he would realize that he likes it and that he doesn't have to actually abuse me in order to dominate me as my Master.
Do you think you would be able to give me some advice on trying to slowly make a little D/s slip into our relationship?
Or how can I get him to try being my Master ?

Answer
well maybe attending some munches in your area or getting him to talk with others would help him see what your trying to tell him.

Why do you not go and join www.fetlife.com and well get him to join as well, they have a lot of groups that could be useful to you as well him on different aspects of the lifestyle.

This would allow you to grow with each other and to see what other parts of the lifestyle you may wish to try as well, never sell yourself short on what you can have just use the tolls available to help you.

I hope that this has helped you even in a small way and that you will keep enjoying your kinks.  Furies can be a lot of fun as well. :-)

awhitecloud