Expert: awhitecloud - 4/19/2011

Question
Hi,

I'm happily married in a relationship that started with D/s, but family, stress, and responsibilities have gradually led to something completely vanilla.  I can talk to him about just about anything, but I hold back on telling him how I want to feel submissive again.  I think my biggest fear is that maybe I was the driving force behind the relationship and that he was doing it to make me happy.  Tough thing for a submissive to swallow, so I keep quiet about it.  He always leaned towards the DaddyDom role and seemed to gain the most satisfaction out of taking care of me and the trust/bond that we developed which is still strong (he seems satisfied and happy).  I think I know the answer to this is to communicate my feelings to him, but I've avoided it for so long that I'm nervous about it now!  Any advice?

Answer
I would say it is something you need to talk with him about. Also maybe for you it might help to join www.fetlife.com and look into some of the submissive groups, as they may help you to have some like minded friends to talk with. I know at times it helps me a lot to have others to support me with who and what I am. You are free to look me up on fetlife as well I use the same name there.

Thank you for the question, and I hope that I have helped a little bit to help you. I know it was not what you wanted to hear but it is the only thing I know is to let him know how you are feeling. Best of luck to you.

Awhitecloud