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Hello,
My name is Paul. I've been very curious about the BDSM lifestyle. Mostly about the boundaries of M/s relationships. Anyway, I've been strongly considering entering into a relationship again after 5 years of being without any relations. I desire to experience the BDSM Master/slave relationship. Publicly, I've not been involved with the BDSM scene.
Question- What are the basics, that one needs to know to be a good Master?
Hi, Paul...
I'm the author of a four-book set on Master/slave relations. I'd strongly suggest that you start with the first book in that series, "Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice". It's specifically all about answering your question.
If you'll write to me at: PowerExchangeEditor@yahoo.com, I'll send you an attachment -- my "resources" list. It has a list of Master/slave book suggestions and a number of key Internet links to Master/slave conferences and such.
In Leather Heart and Soul,
Bob
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Robert Rubel
Expertise
Master/slave theory and practice, using protocols to make your world special, communication glitches within the M/s framework, serious problem solving in an M/s relationship, fire play.
Experience
Author of:
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice;
Protocol Handbook for the Female slave (The gender-free version is titled:
Protocol Handbook for the Leather slave. They are essentially the same.)
M/s Relations: Communications 401 - the Advanced Course;
M/s Relations: Solutions 402 -- Living in Harmony
There are other books, but only these are relevant to this category.
... and a few others. By the way, my slave is on the far left, and my Owner is in the middle. We've been together over six years, and have lived as a Leather Family since June, 2006.
Organizations
MAsT, NLA-I
Publications
See my website: www.RubelPresents.com and go to the "publications" tab.
Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison.
Have presented over 30 times in 2007 and 2008 at major weekend Leather and BDSM conferences. These are all listed on my website, www.RubelPresents.com along with all my presentation topics.
Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008
Past/Present Clients
I am currently mentoring two people, listed on my FetLife profile of Dr_Bob. I particularly enjoy mentoring FemDommes -- they often listen better. I have successfully transformed a select number of people. It's not a question of what I offer, it's a question of what you bring to the table.
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