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Expert: - 5/5/2011


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Greetings,
Thankyou for reading first off. I have been with my master for almost 9 months in a secretive relationship as he has a girlfriend
that does not know. At first it was simply a Master/sub relationship. I tried not to have feelings for him knowing he had a girlfriend.  We both have grown closer to each other as the time went by. I have now fallen in love with him. I am a dominatrix but also his sub. ( I am submissive to him only)I brought him into the BDSM lifestyle so he is learning what being a master is about from myself( from a dommes point of view)
I know we can never be together in a way that I want so my question is: Do I bail now and find another master or continue on with this dead end go nowhere relationship? Help.

Mistress/Master's Sub

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well have you talked to him about this?  You need to be open to him and let him know how you feel.  Talk with him and well maybe he can help you to find another in which you can have more of what it is that you want.  That will not change the feeling that you have for him.

I think you honestly need to talk with him and then look at what you want.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

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I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

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Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

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D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

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I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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