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Expert: - 6/10/2011


Question
So I'm 17 and I know I'm submissive, what I don't know is how to deal with it. I know that no one will take a submissive under 18 because of the law but, like I said I am really into it.

Answer
Hi, Megan (one of my favorite names)...

Please do some study/research into the difference between submission and being a doormat.  That may sound odd, but a submissive is someone who prefers to serve another and you'll need to learn how to serve another without losing yourself.  Just because you're submissive does NOT mean that you sacrifice your own goals/dreams/desires to another; it means that you find someone who will support your dreams even as you serve and obey him.  You MUST understand that your Dom-to-be must be honorable and view your submission as a precious and rare gift that you are offering in exchange for his wisdom and guidance.

18 will come soon enough -- I'm 66.  You can use this time strengthening yourself and learning about submission and service in the BDSM or Master/slave communities.

Write back if you have further questions/issues.

Bob

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Robert Rubel

Expertise

Master/slave theory and practice, using protocols to make your world special, communication glitches within the M/s framework, serious problem solving in an M/s relationship, fire play.

Experience

Author of: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice; Protocol Handbook for the Female slave (The gender-free version is titled: Protocol Handbook for the Leather slave. They are essentially the same.) M/s Relations: Communications 401 - the Advanced Course; M/s Relations: Solutions 402 -- Living in Harmony There are other books, but only these are relevant to this category. ... and a few others. By the way, my slave is on the far left, and my Owner is in the middle. We've been together over six years, and have lived as a Leather Family since June, 2006.

Organizations
MAsT, NLA-I

Publications
See my website: www.RubelPresents.com and go to the "publications" tab.

Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison. Have presented over 30 times in 2007 and 2008 at major weekend Leather and BDSM conferences. These are all listed on my website, www.RubelPresents.com along with all my presentation topics.

Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008

Past/Present Clients
I am currently mentoring two people, listed on my FetLife profile of Dr_Bob. I particularly enjoy mentoring FemDommes -- they often listen better. I have successfully transformed a select number of people. It's not a question of what I offer, it's a question of what you bring to the table.

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