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Hello Sir, and thank you for taking the time to read my question.
I'll start off by saying that I am 18, and in a M/s relationship with my boyfriend of the same age. I am collared, he does have rules and punishments for me, but I admit we are still both exploring this whole new world we've discovered together. There is already no doubt in my mind that this is the lifestyle we both want (we have dated for nearly a year, began exploring M/s about 2 months into our relationship).
I cannot believe that after all this time I have apparently missed a key point of the M/s community. Whenever I heard the word leather, I always associated that with BDSM just because when i think of bondage and whips, leather seems to always be associated.but now after reading several questions on this site it seems that there is actually a difference between Leather M/s relationships and BDSM M/s relationships? What is the difference between the way each practices the M/s lifestyle? What is the difference between Leather and BDSM, for that matter?
Thank you in advance for your answer Sir
Hi, BabyDoll,
This is (again) a quick note letting you know that I'm in Alaska all week with VERY limited Internet time. I'm in the middle of Northern Exposure conference. I'll be back in Austin and able to answer you on Tuesday -- Wednesday at the latest.
Bob.
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Answers by Expert:
Robert Rubel
Expertise
Master/slave theory and practice, using protocols to make your world special, communication glitches within the M/s framework, serious problem solving in an M/s relationship, fire play.
Experience
Author of:
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice;
Protocol Handbook for the Female slave (The gender-free version is titled:
Protocol Handbook for the Leather slave. They are essentially the same.)
M/s Relations: Communications 401 - the Advanced Course;
M/s Relations: Solutions 402 -- Living in Harmony
There are other books, but only these are relevant to this category.
... and a few others. By the way, my slave is on the far left, and my Owner is in the middle. We've been together over six years, and have lived as a Leather Family since June, 2006.
Organizations
MAsT, NLA-I
Publications
See my website: www.RubelPresents.com and go to the "publications" tab.
Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison.
Have presented over 30 times in 2007 and 2008 at major weekend Leather and BDSM conferences. These are all listed on my website, www.RubelPresents.com along with all my presentation topics.
Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008
Past/Present Clients
I am currently mentoring two people, listed on my FetLife profile of Dr_Bob. I particularly enjoy mentoring FemDommes -- they often listen better. I have successfully transformed a select number of people. It's not a question of what I offer, it's a question of what you bring to the table.
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