BDSM/subspace

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Expert: - 6/12/2011


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have felt for a few months now that my MASTER has been upset with me but didn't know why till today. As W/we were spending quiet time HE told me HE was upset with how quickly and deeply i go into subspace when W/we are sceneing,,,HE wants me to try and control this. i have no idea how i can...my emotionally response to HIM is very intense.. HE has taken me to many different levels and in doing so i become very relaxed and thus i guess subspace occurs. i don't remember much when this happens...well i guess my question is ...........is there a way i can control going into subspace so deeply/intensely?

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I do not know much of a way that a sub can control this at all.

I know of others that have had the same problem and well they have come to find ways to play that do not bring on the subspace as fast and when the Dom is ready well then they use the things that send the sub into sub space.

So sorry I am not sure what else to tell you....I honestly do not feel that your Master understands the sub space emotions.  I think he needs to be looking and watching to learn what is sending you to sub space and what does not, then he can pace it and use the things to allow you to hit sub space when he wishes you to hit it.

I hope that maybe I have helped a little bit.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

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I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

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D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

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I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

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I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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