Expert: awhitecloud - 6/24/2011

Question
Hello,
If I end up asking 15 different questions or refraise one questions 15 different ways, I'm sorry. I have a lot on my mind.

I've been in a Master/ Slave relationship a little about a year and a half now. It's my first M\S relationship, and I have a lot of questions, but one main one that has been on my mind latly.

I resently found a really good paying job, I'm really excited about it and the company is doing a lot to help me out and better myself. My Master, however, dosn't like the place, I don't know why and he wont tell me. This job is ment to help me grow as a buisness women and as a person, and my managers have me come in to the office a lot for personal training and team meetings. Master seems to really hate this, every time I'm asked to go in Master will get really upset and angery, this makes me upset, and when I try to explain that they're just trying to help it seems like he dosnt listen. I don't know if it's just me or if I'm missing something, but I feel like he dosnt support me with this job, and I really need his support.

Also, he tends to not tell me things(like why he dosnt like my work place), and he has made it a rule that I cant ask "why" but I hate not knowing things, which is why I always ask "why". He expects me to tell him everything on his mind, but he wont tell me. And If I push it he'll get mad. HOw can I get him to open up? I have a hard time telling him my feelings, it's the hardest thing for me to do (for reasons that go way back into my childhood) but I still try really hard. I want the same from him too. How can I get him to meet me half way?

I love him I really do, but I have to get these things worked out.

Thank you for your time, I'm looking forward to your response.

Answer
Sorry for my delay but my daughter just had a baby so I was there helping out.

I do not think you are asking the right question.

I feel your pain and well if your in a M/s relationship how did you get a job in the first place?  Most Masters of slaves do not allow them to work and if they do work the Master okays the job before they get it.  

If he is unwilling to talk and help you understand the reasons he has a problem with your job, then you are not in an consensual relationship, and that is the biggest thing I see.  You need to be with someone that will lead and direct you and push you to grow and develop, in yourself as well with in the relationship.

If you feel better about yourself you will grow and be able to do more for him in the long run and do it will a willing attitude.  Other wise you will end up doing it in an attitude of resentment and fear of making him unhappy and that is not a good way to serve another.


The relationship is a two way street and maybe he is just afraid of you growing and leaving him.  Who knows I can not speak for him at all.  I can only tell you what I have experienced and been around with helping others. And personally I could not live in what your going through at all, I would have to get out and find a person that would encourage me and would allow me to better myself for a much more happier home live with serving out of love and respect, not out of fear and just doing it because you most.

A happy slave serves a Master so much more better.  Your home is where your heart is if the slaves heart is filled with anguish they do not serve as well. the slaves heart needs to be blessed, full and happy...they will ahve so much more respect for the Master on this front.

Just some food to think on, I can not tell you what to do, but your life does not seem all that happy and the relationship does not seem so loving in my book.

This is just my 3 cents, not that I am telling you to do anything, you most search your soul and them come to your own understanding of what it is you wish in your own life.

Thank you for the question, and I wish you the best of luck.

awhitecloud