Expert: Mistress Violette - 9/13/2011

Question
We are a MASTER/hubby is house DOM i am a switch and sub to him in the bedroom, When we have a sub in house am i  or am i not allowed to ash the sub to help with small house hold things or would that be concered a order example to put there dish or glass in the sink, sence i am head lady of the house or am i supposed to get MASTER permission please advise. thank you MISTRESS Caroline

Answer
Hello, Caroline,

I would say, as lady of the house, you must suggest that dirty dishes need to be put in the sink, damp towels hung back up and so on. Unless your husband is really into micro-management and wants to follow the sub around giving orders about housekeeping items, how else would a sub know what to do? In my house, submissives know they're not guests and they expect to be helpful. They appreciate getting direction from the partner who isn't the dominant and they take it as intended, as assistance, not dominance. There's a difference between asking someone to be thoughtful and giving someone an order. As long as you're all aware of your roles and your tone and demeanor reflect the appropriate role, it should be fine for you to point a sub in the right direction without having to ask for permission.

Thanks for an unusual and interesting question. All the best to you and your partner.

Mistress Violette