Expert: Miss-L - 1/16/2012

Question
hi,,,not too sure if this is for reazl...but..well...let's give it a try.  I am in Dom/sub relation since last july with this guy.  He is the one who brought me into bsdm...as i knew nothing before , all that is pretty new to me.  But, from what i have read, he is veru oriented towards protocole, safe sane and consensual.  He did gaved me a check listed right on the first week we were seing each other.   Here is my question and the problem...He is married.  His wife doesn`'t know about it, she is vanilla.  I don't want him to leave his wife, but now, he wants to collar me.  So i am wondering if it makes sense or not ?
i know..he is married, and i don't care about that, he camed to me. And yes i want him to stay with her.

I am just wondering if he really can collar me without having much availabilities for me ?  what am i going into?
hope i will get an answer   without judgement    thanks

Answer
Hello Ladyrider,

Thanks for writing---I think you've pretty much answered your own question.

"I know he is married and I don't care about that."

If you aren't bothered by the fact that he is married and that he is keeping this part of his life a secret from his way then continue doing as you please. However, use caution. I'm sure you have heard horror stories about things like this causing problems in the end. If that's a risk you want to take no one can stop you.

In regards to if he is able to "collar" you. He can certainly do whatever he wishes if you go along with it. Personally I would not collar anyone who was going behind their spouse's back because that is my own personal philosophy. As a dominant, I make it my role to be responsible and it would seem irresponsible to try to collar someone who was not honest in all aspects of their life.

I would certainly wonder if they are able to lie to their spouse if they would lie to me.

Trust is a big part of the foundation of BDSM.

I hope you get it sorted out!