Expert: Master Nanuck - 1/12/2012

Question
I have been involved with a wonderful dom for about a year and a half now.  He is married and much older than me (I am 37 and he is 58).  He has no intentions of leaving his wife and I am kind of ok with that but I would like more.  My problem is that I LOVE being a sub, but he is very soft with me. He is very much in love with me and I with him, but although our love is strong I crave discipline, regular discipline, that happens with no excuses.  I have asked him several times to please enforce his rules that he makes, but he 'forgets' or he lets me make excuses for forgetting to text him when I get to work, etc.  I really love him but I am getting very frustrated with our relationship.

What I really crave is a 24/7 relationship with a master.  I want so badly to belong to someone, to have a wonderful man care for me and shape my life and call me on it when I stray.  Although I love my dom, he has another life at home that I am not a part of.  I think I could deal with this if he was more of a dom to me.  How can I approach this subject with him and not sound like a complete jerk?  I know this lifestyle is right for me because I was in a marriage that ended because I was so sexually unsatisfied that I strayed.  I would fantasize every night about having an older man, like my current Daddy, give me rules, put me over his knee when I strayed, and treated me like his sweet possession.  I loved it at first with my dom but I have become dissatisfied with the relationship as it is.
Sorry if this all sounds scatterbrained but I am so frustrated I don't know what to do or where to start finding what I want.

Answer
diane:

You love the man, and can not be open and honest wit him...That is neither love nor submission and such attitudes would get you severely puished in most normal settings. Soft Masters are like limp dicks, not much good at what they are for and hence usually the but of ridicule.  You need to sound like a complete jerk, you need to crawl before him, humiliate yourself and beg forgiveness (which he will automatically give you) and then explain the situation.  Your dissatisfaction is a clue to your needs and the lieklihood you will stray again.  Bes to simply let him know and find the stern master you deserve, and need to feel fulfilled.

So in the end, be honest with your current master and then find one with little tolerance or leeway. Find the level of intesity you desire and then submit but I believe you will find that the new master will have to be slightly sadistic (like I am) and intolerant of BS so that you get the stiff punishments you need.

Aramock Nanuck
Mentor and Master