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Hello... please help if possible.. my only M/s realationship has ended..this may sound pathetic but im 50...was late into lifestyle quickly learnt lot are fantacists ect...and met my Master.. it has been the most intense realationship..but i have had to end it.... i am coping best i can... but things turned horible which i so wanted to avoid.. i have been married twice..and had one 3yr vanilla realationship...but this....this is so different...is there a support group counselor..that you know of in the uk...sorry to sound silly but i am really struggling..and cant tell anyone a lot of things as i do not know anyone in the lifestyle.thankyou so much.cazz
Pardon the delay; was out of town this weekend.
I understand the struggle and the trauma. M/s relationships are VASTLY different emotionally than most marriages.
The NCSF (National Coalition for Sexual Freedom) has a "kink-aware professionals" page in their RESOURCES tab. Here one I found on the first page for Britain. Now: there are 10 pages of resources, so you may wish to go through the remaining nine pages. The link is: https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals-directory/kap-directory-homepage.html?catid=14
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Contact Name: Alessandra Iantaffi
Email: alex.iantaffi@gmail.com
Phone: 7956516688
Website: http://www.tranformingperspectives.co.uk
Alessandra Iantaffi PhD MSc. Hemel Hempstead Hertfordshire.07956516688. alex.iantaffi@gmail.comwww.transformingperspectives.co.uk I am a qualified UKCP registered systemic psychotherapist. I have experience of working with individuals couples and families including children of all ages. I specialise in gender and sexuality issues and work as a volunteer for PACE LGBT Family Services. I am ! also a native speaker of Italian fluent in British Sign Language (CACDP Stage 3) and I identify as queer polyamorous and kinky.
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Hope this help you...
Bob
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Robert Rubel
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Master/slave theory and practice, using protocols to make your world special, communication glitches within the M/s framework, serious problem solving in an M/s relationship, fire play.
Experience
Author of:
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice;
Protocol Handbook for the Female slave (The gender-free version is titled:
Protocol Handbook for the Leather slave. They are essentially the same.)
M/s Relations: Communications 401 - the Advanced Course;
M/s Relations: Solutions 402 -- Living in Harmony
There are other books, but only these are relevant to this category.
... and a few others. By the way, my slave is on the far left, and my Owner is in the middle. We've been together over six years, and have lived as a Leather Family since June, 2006.
Organizations
MAsT, NLA-I
Publications
See my website: www.RubelPresents.com and go to the "publications" tab.
Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison.
Have presented over 30 times in 2007 and 2008 at major weekend Leather and BDSM conferences. These are all listed on my website, www.RubelPresents.com along with all my presentation topics.
Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008
Past/Present Clients
I am currently mentoring two people, listed on my FetLife profile of Dr_Bob. I particularly enjoy mentoring FemDommes -- they often listen better. I have successfully transformed a select number of people. It's not a question of what I offer, it's a question of what you bring to the table.
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