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It is a 24/7 owned and collared slave that is having trouble turning the pain into pleasure, can you help me please. It want to be the best slave its Master could ask for.

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dannii

Pain is always the flip side of pleasure, the problem may well be not that you can not experience the transition but how the pain is administered.  Pain to be used as foreplay must be administered in small doses, and targeting sexually (physically) sensitive areas.  A light whisping of a whip against a nipple, or clit is far more sensual than a strike  In fact if administered correctly it is as much a thrill as being fondled and as the intensity slowly increases so does the pleasure conversion but this must be done over time.

I would not fault you if you master does not have the skills to make you experience this.  So talk to him about this or have him consult others on technique.  Now he may well punish you for this, but bear it and he may accept he too needs training.


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I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle but I am more Pharoanic than Gorean bent. I may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa, we tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

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I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharoanic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household and had a number relations with Domtrix who shared my assets, or with other Master's where we pooled resources. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable.

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I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of a bout 15 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

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I have not published on BDSM under my name.

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Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

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