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So, i've been interested in the lifestyle since i was about 12. Well, unknowingly since i was a lot younger, but it took me a while to figure it out. I'm 15 now, and i've been talking to a dom who is 25 online. I don't know if there is really a point looking for anyone near my own age, as i haven't been able to find anyone with experience near my own age, obviously... Do you think the age difference is too much? Especially with how young i am? I have spent a lot of time thinking about myself and who i am, my limits, what i want. I'm not rushing into this without thinking about it, but regardless i do know that i am very young and can't know what i want fully yet. On the other hand, I really do want to get involved, and i've been fighting with myself about it for 2 years... Do you think I'm too young? And is the age difference, especially online, too much?

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claire:

Age is a function of maturity not the other way around. If you are comfortable and can make mature decisions then it should matter not what explorations you make; within limits.  The issue will be as you make  life decisions society may want to interfere in those; and so you must be prepared for that. As long as the relationship[ is online, and only that, and no predatory acts are engaged in then I believe you are safe. But remember many people pre4y on the young and inexperienced.  I would take it very slow and measured so that you are truly comfortable with the evolution of any relationship.

As to the difference in age... bolox...

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I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle but I am more Pharoanic than Gorean bent. I may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa, we tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

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I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharoanic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household and had a number relations with Domtrix who shared my assets, or with other Master's where we pooled resources. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable.

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I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of a bout 15 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

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I have not published on BDSM under my name.

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Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

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