Expert: Master Nanuck - 1/4/2012

Question
So, i've been interested in the lifestyle since i was about 12. Well, unknowingly since i was a lot younger, but it took me a while to figure it out. I'm 15 now, and i've been talking to a dom who is 25 online. I don't know if there is really a point looking for anyone near my own age, as i haven't been able to find anyone with experience near my own age, obviously... Do you think the age difference is too much? Especially with how young i am? I have spent a lot of time thinking about myself and who i am, my limits, what i want. I'm not rushing into this without thinking about it, but regardless i do know that i am very young and can't know what i want fully yet. On the other hand, I really do want to get involved, and i've been fighting with myself about it for 2 years... Do you think I'm too young? And is the age difference, especially online, too much?

Answer
claire

I suppose I should admonish you and what not but the truth of the matter, is that as we discover our sexuality we all look for ways to express it.  Now neo-Christian societies like to repress this and feel they are being holier by doing so, in fact all they do push this into violent deviate behaviors which are harmful.

I believe healthy expression of ones sexuality is important and more so a balancing of our natural development.  The fact that you are into BDSM is a little off the wall but not far, and if we were more honest with ourselves then it would be far more frequent that e like to admit in "polite" or "vanilla" society.

Having said that, age is a number, at least as you get older.  Now you are in a danger zone, because there are people who prey on younger people. You will need to be wary as you explore this lifestyle with anyone.  I am less worried about sexual predators than I am about emotional ones. These are people whom engage and involve younger people whom seem to build a "love" or "infatuation" aspect in to the relationship which build a emotional bond to the dominant.  This is used to get a non serious relationship appear as serious and ends up hurting the person at the other end when they finally realize they are just being manipulated and there actually is no emotional reciprocation.

No actually, since you are online it is largely safer.  You wont engage in physically (or shouldn't) activities, and wont get pregnant or any of the other burdensome events in a youth's life. My one concern about online, is it never is substantive and almost impossible to verify the person on the other end.  So your 25 y/o could be 15 or 55 or any where in between. It is going to be next to impossible to verify this.  

Your age is an issue in the US and a few other jurisdictions, so the person dealing with you will likely fall a foul of the law.  Please keep this in mind when revealing yourself to them or doing any acts on webcam for their entertainment.  Also I would not entertain direct contact for a couple years, it just is too easy to fall into that black hole.

I know I sound a little parental, but then I am one.  If you need to explore your sexuality, and this lifestyle then only do so in a safe way and with people you can know and trust.

If you have more questions private or public feel free to ask.

Aramock Nanuck
Mentor and Master  (and a parent too!!!)