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Hello Twist,
My question is about breaking and rebuilding. My current partner is very keen to break me... Possibility because I am not really submissive, his orders make me laugh but I like pain... Anyway, could u please explain what breaking and rebuilding mean, with some examples... For me it sounds like forcing... I could be wrong.

Many thanks in advance,

Mag

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not twist but I will give it a go...

Breaking and Rebuilding is actually a very common concept how it is used is different.  In the military they do this as a part of basic and advanced combat training.  The fundamental idea is to rid the person of the cultural baggage to question or reflect on an order.  In fact the idea is very much like slave training, they want the soldier to respond automatically to commands.

There are limits placed on this and a whole set of governance in the vanilla world but essentially the process is the same. So unlike the military there are things some people will just not do without the depth of training to which a conditioned response without rebelling.  Taking it to this limit is effectively what lifestyle doms do.  The intensity is by far more rachetted up than elsewhere and the rewards more intimate, punishment more severe so all and all much more of emotional, and mental leverage.

I hope this helped you, take a look as some of the outlines on "basic training" for the military and you will see the similarities.  

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I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

Experience

I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.

Organizations
I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

Publications
I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.

Education/Credentials
Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

Awards and Honors
Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,

Past/Present Clients
Not relevant; private consults remain so.

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