Question Ok so I'm new to this type of thing and I really don't know where to start. I've always been turned on by the thought of D/s but have never had the opportunity to explore it until a few weeks ago. I was asked to be a Domme and I'm not sure how to go about it. Where do I begin? I want to be good and I understand that it will take practice but I want to know if you can give me any input or advice as to what I can do?
Answer Try going to local munches, join local bdsm groups, and check out websites dedicated to bdsm. There are a lot of sites specifically designed to teach, answer questions, and guide people who are new. I would also check out a few sites listed below. The first site, Fetlife, is run by kinksters. It's free to join, and there is a ton of info available, as well as thousands of Dommes, Mistresses and the like that are more than happy to help someone new into the lifestyle.
Can answer your BD/SM Lifestyle questions regarding flogging, caning, paddles, whips, scening, fear play, wax play, sensual knife play, humiliation, fisting, anal, violet wands, clamps, cbt, ice play, books, breathplay including blood chokes, cuffs, collars, furniture, collaring ceremonies, links, gags, toys and other items used in the lifestyle, Will not answer questions regarding medical advice in regards to the Lifestyle. I am a sadist, married to a Domme, who is also a sadist, am the owner of two, in a Leather Family, head and co owner of House of Dragon, a BDSM House, along with my wife, in a poly relationship, and enjoy the 24/7 lifestyle.
35 Years experience in the BD/SM Lifestyle.
Organizations Terre Haute S.I.N. Social Interaction Network (CoFounder).
Co Owner of House of Dragon.
Founder of Southern Indiana Consensual Kink (S.I.C.K.)
Publications Variations Magazine, on "Honor and Respect".
Education/Credentials Member of The Dungeon Monitors Association, as well as The Violet Wand Guild, and life experience.