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Hello, I'm extremely new to the bdsm scene.. And I don't know what to do. I'm a submissive and had m first real play and first real punishment while my dom... We had a chat because he had another sub, he assured me that we will see how we progress to if we have a relationship as he knows it is what I would like.. But he has began an open relationship with this other sub, n she is his everything, when they are together he don't reply to my texts or anything.. And I found out and I'm feeling really hurt and maybe a little jealous and not sure if now me n him can progress to the same thing. He is poly, but I don't understand what I'm meant to be, I'm not the most emotionally stable at times, but I deal with it. Bt with him not replying and now I found out they are in a relationship an open one. I don't know what I'm meant to do how can I cope with just sing his play mate? I don't want to lose him I want to please him but I can't speak to him about it as he won't awnser my texts.

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Sounds like your on two separate pages as far as to what it is you both expect from each other. I think you need to talk and come to an agreement. I do not think he has been clear on what it is that he means with poly and your role in his life. The whole Thing is about meeting each others needs, and if you can not well then you need to find someone that can.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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