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Hello, My name is Paul, I'm a Dominant Male & My wife / sub are rather new to the lifestyle, well at least admittedly so anyways. I'm looking for resources for Dominants. Ive found tons of sites. books, forums for My wife/sub, but piratically none for Myself.
I stumbled across this site by accident, & even here, I see many of subs seeking info & questions answered,, but the Doms are sparse.
Could you direct Me to resources meant for Doms & their learning, training, growth.?

Much appreciated,
Paul

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I've listed a couple or three sites that may help bring You along. Part of the fun is learning together. Don't be afraid to ask Your sub/slave for some advice as to what she is looking for in the lifestyle, things that make her gasp, or turn her crank as far as things she'd like to try. Also, very important, find out what she DOESN'T want to try, and things she might try if pushed. Also, set up safe words that will stop play if something happens that she just can't deal with. Often things sound good in imagination that just don't do it in real life.

https://www.fetlife.com  (A free to join site that's run by lifestylers. You'll enjoy it a lot)

http://m.voices.yahoo.com/bdsm-dominate-submissive-even-are-1874122.html

http://www.submissiveloving.com/maledom.html

http://www.leathernroses.com/domination/journeydom.html

Try these sites. The first is a site for kinksters to meet others of a like mind. There You can meet others, ask questions, get ideas, view pictures, message others, make friends, and just have fun. There's no chat on fetlife, but it more than makes up for the lack of chat in other areas, and they don't charge anything to join, make friends, or view pictures.

I hope this helps, Paul. Best of luck in Your journey, and hers.

SINcerely in Leather
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Can answer your BD/SM Lifestyle questions regarding flogging, caning, paddles, whips, scening, fear play, wax play, sensual knife play, humiliation, fisting, anal, violet wands, clamps, cbt, ice play, books, breathplay including blood chokes, cuffs, collars, furniture, collaring ceremonies, links, gags, toys and other items used in the lifestyle, Will not answer questions regarding medical advice in regards to the Lifestyle. I am a sadist, married to a Domme, who is also a sadist, am the owner of two, in a Leather Family, head and co owner of House of Dragon, a BDSM House, along with my wife, in a poly relationship, and enjoy the 24/7 lifestyle.

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35 Years experience in the BD/SM Lifestyle.

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Terre Haute S.I.N. Social Interaction Network (CoFounder). Co Owner of House of Dragon. Founder of Southern Indiana Consensual Kink (S.I.C.K.)

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Variations Magazine, on "Honor and Respect".

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Member of The Dungeon Monitors Association, as well as The Violet Wand Guild, and life experience.

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