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I have a burning question that I've wanted to know for a while, and it has only been emphasised more following the prominence of BDSM in novels recently.
Why do people actually do BDSM? Like, how do they get involved in it, get started in it? And is there a certain age at which people begin?
I really hope you can help answer my question.
Thankyou!

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kirsty

You ask some very simple and yet deep questions here.  Everybody gets involved in it for one of three reasons, 1.  They fell into out of conditions beyond their control, 2. They wanted to explore and discover something that was missing in there life, 3. Did not have a choice.

Every other reason you can imagine falls generally into one of those three categories.  Like being dirt poor and no escape, (3) because they would rather be well fed and abused by someone able to care for them than fall for another dirt poor fool. Just for example.  Some people use it as a way to deal with the things in their lives which previously traumatized them (like incest, or abuse) (1)  and are trying to put things into order.  And others read a kinky book and simply say "I wonder what that is like" (2).

As to age, if you have read as may profiles you will discover there really is no age when it happens,  big periods are post puberty (discovery) and mid life crisis (wondering what they missed) but all in all you will find people of all ages.

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I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

Experience

I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.

Organizations
I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

Publications
I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.

Education/Credentials
Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

Awards and Honors
Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,

Past/Present Clients
Not relevant; private consults remain so.

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