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I live in oklahoma and was told that there were classes to teach someone how to be a master, Dom, slave, or sub. I was wondering if this were true and where I might look to find these classes locally. My wife and I realized recently that we are extremely interested in this lifestyle more for sexual purposes but also are intrigued by this lifestyle and may want to pursue it 24/7. So we have decided to experiment with each other and want to be extremely safe when it comes to all aspects of this. If you know of any classes or info I could use that help us play safely it would greatly be appreciated.

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Hello, Larry.

I am not sure what area of Oklahoma you're referring to, so I will simply recommend online BDSM training. Also, reading books/literature can be very helpful. A simple search for BDSM relationships, D/s, etc. can yield many results through Google and Amazon. It's also helpful to decide early on whether it's just a Dominant/submissive lifestyle, or Master/slave. Slow experimentation and constant communication are necessary, and sometimes only experimenting for a couple of hours at a time can be helpful. KINK Academy is also a great resource. Check if there are dungeons around your area, as well. If you give me a more specific area, I can examine further.

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Madame Rax.  

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Expertise

I am open and willing to answer any questions involving BDSM that do not specifically concern illegal acts involving children or non-consensual assault against an unwilling party.

Experience

I have had BDSM experience in a professional capacity since 2005. As far as personal, non-professional experience, I have always taken the lead in relationships, friendships, and other situational interactions. I prefer to "wear the pants" so to speak. However, this is not to say I wear the physical pants: I am mostly seen wearing skirts.

Organizations
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Publications
Excitedly, this will be my first foray into professional writing about BDSM, however my vanilla writings have appeared in several publications online. I am the former main web editor of a very popular DIY website, writing articles about electronics, repurposing, and sustainability.

Education/Credentials
I have participated in many educational workshops held by Pro-Dommes. I have also hosted a few workshops involving BDSM issues. I have done extensive research on D/s power dynamics and BDSM. As far as education, however, professional sessions and interactions with clients have provided most of my experience.

Past/Present Clients
I have a multitude of both. I specialize in clients with physical handicaps, rare kinks, edge play, LGBT lifestyles, and other underrepresented or marginalized groups.

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