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Hi I'm fairly new to this lifestyle and honestly a little bit scared because I don't want to displease my Master.  My Master and I are very close and I am allowed to speek freely with him.  However we were in love before we became Master and slave so I'm worried that I won't know how to please him.  I was wondering about hat general rules a slave should follow and whether or not is it ok to set bondaries as a slave.  I will be grateful for any advice.
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There are usually hundreds of rules, some applied others not depending on the dominant you are with.  There are however 3 key rules which seem to be universal and broadly cover most of the rest in some degree or another.

1. Honesty, this is absolutely essential on both sides of the relationship. Many things we do in this lifestyle requires a level of trust few vanilla relationships ever expect. Hence, trust must be ensured. One of the cornerstones of this is honesty.  Without total honesty, which includes no white lies... then trust is always at risk.

2. Dependence, or a lack of autonomy.  This is the parking of the universal urge to be be in control of one's own life and expecting act in a way that promotes individuality and independence.  This act of being and I versus property is counter to everything in our lifestyle.  For example capitalizing your name shows and arrogance and self importance.  It is a small thing but puts you on an equal footing with your dominant.  Most dominants clearly want the control and dominance and to have you realize that all the important decisions in your life are made by someone else.

3. Obedience, working hand in had with the above you act instead of react. There is no second thought, no assessing or questioning the instructions given you simply carry them out. This is like even harder at first than the first two rules, but becomes more easy over time particularly as the second rule becomes entrenched.

As I said there are hundreds of rules but these basic three will give you all of the foundation for the rest.  If you have further questions just ask.

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I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

Experience

I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.

Organizations
I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

Publications
I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.

Education/Credentials
Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

Awards and Honors
Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,

Past/Present Clients
Not relevant; private consults remain so.

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