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I am not new to the S/M lifestyle. I have always liked kinky play (whether it be 24/7 or just in the bedroom), but my role has always been the slave and I have been taught the ways to be a very good girl.

I am now with a man who likes to “switch roles,” per-say. He’s not only been my master in life for over a year, but when it comes to the bedroom, some days he tells me to take dominance over him and then he punishes me for “going out of place” if I do a good job. On the other side, if I do not fully fulfill the dominance role then I get punished worse for “disobeying” or “going against” my master.

I do not wish to anger my master, I want to be a good girl, but I have never before been a Dom and honestly do not know how. I have done things to him that I have had done to me (tying up, beating, choking, pissing, whipping, ect.), but he says he is bored with those and wants me to be more aggressive. My question is how can I fulfill my Masters wishes? What are some things I can do to be a good Dom to my submissive master?

I do not know if you would be able to help, but I have asked many and they do not help. They either suggest things that my master is bored of already or things that are too extream and that I do not trust myself in pursuing. Thank you for your time.

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Well try some of the things he does with you? Maybe some bondage or something else. Ask him for a list of things he might like so you have thing to consider as well to be able to do with him.

I do not think you have very good communication with him, unless the whole point would be that in the end you get punished no matter what you do. If he just wants a reason they well you get what he wishes.

I honestly do not know what to tell you at all, I have not come across this before in this manner.

Good luck and please be safe.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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