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My master is male and I his slave is female I want to tell him that I'm a lesbian but I'm scared of the punishment (leaving him and getting caught is being locked up that's the punishment) how should I tell him I want a mistress instead????

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Demeta

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demeta,

BDSM requires consent at all times. Otherwise it is just abuse. If you consent to give up your consent, it has to remain voluntary. That said, keeping your master in the dark about your evolving preferences is not good. It is important that you communicate this to him immediately. If he cannot respect your needs, he is not truly a master.

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Madame Rax  

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I am open and willing to answer any questions involving BDSM that do not specifically concern illegal acts involving children or non-consensual assault against an unwilling party.

Experience

I have had BDSM experience in a professional capacity since 2005. As far as personal, non-professional experience, I have always taken the lead in relationships, friendships, and other situational interactions. I prefer to "wear the pants" so to speak. However, this is not to say I wear the physical pants: I am mostly seen wearing skirts.

Organizations
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Publications
Excitedly, this will be my first foray into professional writing about BDSM, however my vanilla writings have appeared in several publications online. I am the former main web editor of a very popular DIY website, writing articles about electronics, repurposing, and sustainability.

Education/Credentials
I have participated in many educational workshops held by Pro-Dommes. I have also hosted a few workshops involving BDSM issues. I have done extensive research on D/s power dynamics and BDSM. As far as education, however, professional sessions and interactions with clients have provided most of my experience.

Past/Present Clients
I have a multitude of both. I specialize in clients with physical handicaps, rare kinks, edge play, LGBT lifestyles, and other underrepresented or marginalized groups.

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