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I am moving towards entering a D/s relationship with someone whom approached me online.  We have discussed what we want from our subs and doms and fit very well in our beliefs and nature.

She is a self described brat and confident person which I think can be a good thing as I enjoy dealing with a mischievousness nature.  'Show' brattiness is fine and she has stated she will test and push me, which I am happy dealing with but am concerned about outright constant disobedience to the point of disrespect.

Is this a simple case of stern punishment?

Would appreciate your thoughts.

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sometimes it can be, sometimes it is just a lack of consistency and the rules being set in stone, and very clear expectations of what is expected as far as the line of respect.  For some they have lower levels of respect then others hold.  So you need to look at it and make it clear that punishments for breaking the respect line will always be much more hard then others.  As it should be as well.

If you need more help please let me know.

Thank you for the question and have fun and be safe.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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