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I have been in a relationship with the same man for over 9 years, since we were in high school. We have experienced everything together and we are wanting to try new things into the bedroom. Since dabbling in the BDSM scene a little we have decided to come up with names. I am terrible at this and was wanting if you had any suggestions on a name for myself that he will call me when I am taking the Dom role. I do not care for anything starting with Madame, no offense to those who have chosen it. Or is there an easier way to pick a name? Perhaps a website that I am missing with a list of suggestions to choose from?

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Crystal

The name you pick will define you in many ways you do not yet realize.  It will become a moniker which will be extended to many sites, situations and references.  You have a strong name Crystal use it, add to it, make it yours...  If you are a softy at heart the Crystal Princess, if you are a megalomaniac  Crystal Goddess, if you are a sadist, Crystal Shard, if you are something more sensual Crystal Enchantress and finally a well rounded Crystal Enigma.  I prefer later because it asks more questions than it answers and opens doors for you to change direction, focus and evolve over time.  Plus it states clearly there are still mysteries deep within you.

Just so ideas off the top of my head.

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Expertise

I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

Experience

I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.

Organizations
I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

Publications
I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.

Education/Credentials
Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

Awards and Honors
Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,

Past/Present Clients
Not relevant; private consults remain so.

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