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Hello,
I am a first year college student and trying to find a Dom/Master. I have never been in a BDSM relationship and would like to try. How do I get started?

Answer
Actually, I've started writing a book with the title: "Searching for Master: A Guide for Finding your BDSM Partner"

This may sound a bit odd, but I'd suggest that you buy a copy of "How to Capture a Mistress" by Karen Martin and just reverse the genders.

It's about learning the skills that a Dom/Master would want. You have to make yourself into the person that would be attractive to the person you seek.  So: learn about BDSM, learn skills, learn how to be a good conversationalist, how to be a good office administrator, etc.

Also, I have just completed a book that is going to my publisher by mid-week.  It's titled: "Exploring the World of Kink: A Modern Guide to BDSM"  It should be on Amazon by mid-Feb.  That will give you a LOT of guidance about things to look for and to look out for when entering this world and looking for a partner.

I wish you very good fortune...  

Bob

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Robert Rubel (Dr. Bob)

Expertise

Anything related to BDSM or Master/slave relationships or activities.

Experience

See: www.KinkMastery.com I live 24/7 Master/slave lifestyle and have since 2002 both as Master and slave. My Owner and I present and do "weekend intensives" internationally and at BDSM conferences practically every month.

Organizations
Masters And slaves Together (MAsT) National Leather Association - International (NLA-I) National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)

Publications
+++ BDSM Mastery—Basics: your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols. +++ BDSM Mastery—Relationships: a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives +++ Master/slave Mastery: Updated handbook of concepts, approaches, and practices +++ Master/slave Mastery--Advanced: Refining the fire; ideas that matter +++ Master/slave Mastery--Protocols: Focusing the intent of your relationship +++ Is THAT What They Meant? A book of practical communication insights

Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison. EdM, Boston University with specialty in urban education Presented 80+ BDSM weekend conferences worldwide since 2007.

Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008

Past/Present Clients
Not applicable.

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