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I am newly in an online D/s relationship, We have discussed punishments and my Master has brought up financial penalty.  What is protocol for this form of punishment if you are not in a real time relationship? Is this something that should be a red flag to myself and other new online D/s?

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jessica.

If you feel uncomfortable during any step of the D/s process, you need to re-think your situation. Do not fall for the first Dom who is demanding and tries to sweep you off your feet. At first consideration, this does sound very shady - but perhaps there is a more involved back story that I am not getting in this small paragraph. Real time relationships are weighted slightly more heavily in a BDSM dynamic, because most BDSM activities are very physical. Long-distance relationships are perfectly fine for a temporary situation, though if you have never met this Dom in person, do not consent to anything you are uncomfortable regarding.

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I am open and willing to answer any questions involving BDSM that do not specifically concern illegal acts involving children or non-consensual assault against an unwilling party.

Experience

I have had BDSM experience in a professional capacity since 2005. As far as personal, non-professional experience, I have always taken the lead in relationships, friendships, and other situational interactions. I prefer to "wear the pants" so to speak. However, this is not to say I wear the physical pants: I am mostly seen wearing skirts.

Organizations
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Publications
Excitedly, this will be my first foray into professional writing about BDSM, however my vanilla writings have appeared in several publications online. I am the former main web editor of a very popular DIY website, writing articles about electronics, repurposing, and sustainability.

Education/Credentials
I have participated in many educational workshops held by Pro-Dommes. I have also hosted a few workshops involving BDSM issues. I have done extensive research on D/s power dynamics and BDSM. As far as education, however, professional sessions and interactions with clients have provided most of my experience.

Past/Present Clients
I have a multitude of both. I specialize in clients with physical handicaps, rare kinks, edge play, LGBT lifestyles, and other underrepresented or marginalized groups.

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