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Hello,

I would like some advice on my new possible Dom, however first I need to explain my circumstances.

I have only been in one Dom/Sub relationship before, and although I was very happy at the beginning, it turned very sour towards the end, with my old master forcing things which were not agreed to in our rules, breaking trust, and being so posessive i could not know anyone else (so i never met anyone else in these sort of roles to gain insight)

Fast forward a year and I have recently been speaking to someone online who is looking for a sub. However after past events, I am finding it difficult to embrace the role as a sub without questioning his orders, and being rather defensive. I know this is what I want, however am struggling to bite my tongue on occasions. The new Dom has explained he will not meet me in person until I prove myself, and collaring has been discussed if we come to agreement in terms etc after a length of time, but my worry is that I will end up pushing such a good Dom away due to my past experiences, and fear of completing tasks for someone i as yet have not met in person.

I would appreciate any advice and enlightenment you could give

Thank you

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I so do not understand on line Doms and this proving your a sub....does he have to prove he is a Dom?  You can not build trust in this manner of living. It takes two to make the relationship at all.

Part of building the trust you need and want will come in meeting and his being and doing as he has said he would do. So I am not sure what to tell you, other then I do not feel is in concerned about you over all and giving you what you need.

I wish you will and I hope that you can find what it is that your seeking.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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