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I am 18 years old. I have been fantasizing about being a sub for a while. I really want to give it a try but I can't find a dom. I want to know if theres any place where its safe to look, frankly, Creigslist scares me!

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Personally, I agree, Craigslist scares me too. Try searching online in your area for local groups and munches, lik Carolinabdsm.com, or one of the other groups available. It's safer with a group as a rule, as you'll be with like minded people in a group setting. There, you can meet others who are more experienced and can give advice and guide you safely, which is one of the reasons such groups exist in the first place.

There, you can also learn about yourself, and what your kinks and hard limits are, and what you expect in a bdsm relationship, whether it's D/s, sm or what have you. The more you know, and learn, the better your choices will be. Also, don't bypass such sites as fetlife.com. there, you can interact with other lifestylers in a safe environment, read profiles, ask questions and learn. There are a feq good sites available to learn from as well.


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Master Shadow.

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Can answer your BD/SM Lifestyle questions regarding flogging, caning, paddles, whips, scening, fear play, wax play, sensual knife play, humiliation, fisting, anal, violet wands, clamps, cbt, ice play, books, breathplay including blood chokes, cuffs, collars, furniture, collaring ceremonies, links, gags, toys and other items used in the lifestyle, Will not answer questions regarding medical advice in regards to the Lifestyle. I am a sadist, married to a Domme, who is also a sadist, am the owner of two, in a Leather Family, head and co owner of House of Dragon, a BDSM House, along with my wife, in a poly relationship, and enjoy the 24/7 lifestyle.

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35 Years experience in the BD/SM Lifestyle.

Organizations
Terre Haute S.I.N. Social Interaction Network (CoFounder). Co Owner of House of Dragon. Founder of Southern Indiana Consensual Kink (S.I.C.K.)

Publications
Variations Magazine, on "Honor and Respect".

Education/Credentials
Member of The Dungeon Monitors Association, as well as The Violet Wand Guild, and life experience.

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