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I am 20 years old and have been interested in the BDSM lifestyle for a few years. I have little to no sexual experience. I find the idea of spanking, being tied, and submissive to a man exciting and fantasize about ALOT. Only I can not find a male suitable for the position and I don't necessarily feel comfortable answering ads that are looking for submissive females. However, I can be a little... testy(?). Do you think I am a submissive?

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no one can tell you if your a submissive or not, you might just be a bottom that wants to play and not have sex?  It is your heart and soul that defines what you are.

I would say go to www.fetlife.com and join it as it is free.  Find others in your area look for groups of like minded people and explore what is out there.  You can look me up there as well if you need help or just want a friend.

Thank you for the question,

awhitecloud

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Expertise

Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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