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I have some...interesting lesbian sex fetishes. I want to know if they are safe, or how I can safely carry them out.

My girlfriend and I are into extremely hardcore sex; we want to begin using needles, electric shock devices, and staples to add to our routine. These are among our favorite bdsm scenes. We have thought about it, but now Im willing to and I trust her enough to let her. Shes the domme and I'm her sub, for the most part. How should we go about this?

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Davya,

Sorry for the delay I was in the hospital since Thursday. As for how to go about this, is do your research about all the things you wish to do and learn to be safe.. No sure where you are from, but if you are in the US I would sign up for Fetlife, and find others in your area and talk to those in your area. You can also go to party's and demo's and ask others how to do things and be safe.. I would also suggest the book

Screw the roses, send me the thorns

Different Loving

Although I think since you are looking for extreme you would be best off to find someone who can teach you these things hands on.. Such as needle play, fire play, whips, and so forth..

Also you can find toys here that will be more of what you would be looking for

http://www.extremerestraints.com/electrosex-gear_43/

Anyway if you sign up for fetlife and would like help finding things in your area, I am LadyAryana there

Wishing you luck and I hope you find the information you need..

Lady Aryana

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

Past/Present Clients
Master, slave, submissive, Tops, and Bottoms. Along with those who simply wanted to learn how to be kinky in the bedroom

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