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two of my slaves, a male and a female were fucked by another master at a party without my knowledge and according to my slave, that master threatened them not to tell me what happened with a beating. I punished my slaves for not telling me the truth in time, but i don't know how to deal with that hateful master. We don't have a local BDSM council here so can i punish that master on my own? And how? Thx for the answer in advance.

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It's unclear whether your slaves consented to sex. If not, that's rape and any punishment should occur through the criminal courts.

If they did consent, then you have slaves that don't honor your relationship and another person that doesn't respect you. A whipping or other form of punishment doesn't change that. I would simply distance myself from those people

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Questions related to power-based relationships in which decision-making authority is intentionally and consensually transferred -- and the resulting imbalance celebrated. I am able to assist those trying to understand where they fit in, and those seeking to structure and thrive in a power based relationships. Specific topics I am able to discuss include: setting and achieving personal and relationship goals, responsible Mastery, the use of protocols and rituals, communication techniques, and conflict resolution. In addition, I am knowledgable and experienced in polyamory, long-distance relationships, bisexuality and a variety of kinky activities ranging from mind games to sadistic play.

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I have chosen to have a power-based structure in my relationships over the past 18 years. This has included a 16-year M/s relationship, several shorter term D/s relationships and various play partners. I am an active participant in various online forums and seek to provide support and advice to those interested in the Lifestyle.

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I do not hold any credentials specific to BDSM, relying instead on knowledge gained from life experiences, reading and conversing with others in the Lifestyle.

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