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I am and always have been submissive by nature. It is based on my adoration for Women and, therefore, clearly understanding my place as it relates to Women. My emotional well being is
inextricably reliant on a strong, dominant Woman.

My fear: I am now 63 years of age and alone. I will not allow myself to be involved in a conventional  relationship. It's neither fair to myself or my potential partner. Furthermore, I live on an island, (literally), and the prospects of finding a suitable partner here, where I live, is dim.
Most importantly,my age limits my possibilities and, admittedly, as a result, I lack the confidence I had when I had a more youthful appearance.

I have just now, prior to this email,  made the decision to be pro-active and attempt to alter my situation in this regard.

Any advice / support would be most appreciated.

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Avi,

Without knowing just where you are at other than a island I am unable to help you find someone.. Although I can say that the age is not the problem.. What I see as the problem is your lack of confidence in yourself.. We all find our place in life at different times.. Just cause someone in their early 20's knows where he or she is supposed to be, does not mean they have everything in their grips to make his or her's dreams to come true.

Now I would suggest you sign up for Fetlife, and search other's in your area or if you find you might like to get to know someone, considering moving.. I know many people who are older in life who make that leap and find it is simply worth it..

I wish you luck in your search.. Although as I said show you have faith in yourself and remember looks aren't always what someone seeks.

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

Past/Present Clients
Master, slave, submissive, Tops, and Bottoms. Along with those who simply wanted to learn how to be kinky in the bedroom

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